met this girl online… is she a scam? (be warned its VERY long)?
Question: met this girl online… is she a scam? (be warned its VERY long)?
Hey people… i recieved a friend request about 3 years ago on myspace from a very attractive girl. We started talking back and forth through instant messaging… We hit it off really well and I really started to fall for her. We ended up exchanging phone #s and texted eachother constantly. I found out according to her that she had been raped and stabbed and was in a hospital awaiting a kidney transplant because hers failed due to the stab wound. She has even sent me sexy pictures where i was able to see the scar. We started talking on the phone almost every night for several hours.. I have always felt like it sounded too good to be true but everything seemed so genuine. Even though she was sick we still talked all the time. We even used the L word eventually(yes im an idiot). I wanted to come see her because she only lived a state away. We planned this for a while but i never had the money to come see her. We drifted apart for a little while and i met another girl who didnt live in another state. She ended up catching onto the fact that i was distant but she was also very controlling to begin with. She was very jealous and i broke it off with her as a result.
Eventually i got a new phone and transferred all my contacts. I sent out a mass message saying that i had a new number, i had totally forgot she was still in there… Lo and behold she texts me back and we start talking again. During the time i was away she had met another guy online and was going through the same motions we had basically. Talking back and forth telling eachother they loved one another. We kept talking back and forth and she eventually broke it off with him because he never saved up the money to go see her and she said she still was in love with me. We started being romantic with eachother again. Needless to say I fell in love again, i feel like a bit of a tool but i wear my heart on my sleeve so what can you do… I actually saved up enough money to go see her. She was seemingly healthy and everything was falling into place. I was going to come see her and meet her whole family. I had the tickets for about a month. She had been telling me about an upcoming doctors appointment. Then she told me that she had cancer and was dying and basically stopped texting me about a week before i flew out there. I had a hard time getting a hold of her and she told me to move on a couple times. Needless to say i was crushed. I rerouted my tickets to Vegas and got wasted, played poker, and even got laid by an attractive girl(didnt pay for it btw lol). I felt redeemed and happy. She started texting me again saying she was so sorry i didnt go see her and that she was going to save money up to come see me instead to make up for it. Being the hopeless sucker i am i played along. But i felt overwhelmed with guilt and told her that i had met somebody out in Vegas. She told me that i was horrible and questioned how i could do that to her.. We have been extremely distant ever since and i even looked at her phone records at one point because i worked for the cell phone company. She was talking to some other guy she met online and was calling him all the time. I started talking to her yet again but decided recently that she is wasting my time and draining me emotionally. I told her that im done talking to her because she barely makes an effort. All she ever tells me is how sick she feels and that she sleeps all the time and thats why we dont talk. Supposedly her “cancer” is in “remission” and this is very confusing to me. She cant even get her own story straight sometimes it seems like.
She has never asked me for favors or money, we strictly have a verbal relationship. What the hell is going on? I feel so humiliated. She actually was telling me the truth about where she lived and even gave me her real address at one point when i was going to go visit her(i looked up her account). I dont get why someone would go to all this trouble when they are not even benefitting financially from it. I have heard of scams for money before and this is not it. What do you think is going on here? Do you think she just got cold feet right before i went out to see her? I just dont get it, it seems like her only purpose is to build me up and then throw me off the edge of a high cliff. If anyone has any helpful advice or ideas i would love to hear them. The best answer wins 10 points. Sorry for all the detail but even this is the summarized version.
Answer:
Answer by Me
Basket case. Lose her number and move on.
Proof that my mother in law is insane, or is this a widespread belief?
Question: Proof that my mother in law is insane, or is this a widespread belief?
I haven’t had a home phone in more than 5 years. My cell phone starting having problems today. A few buttons don’t work, including speaker phone. I can still receive calls. My mother in law called to speak to my 6 year old. I always put the speaker phone on so she can talk easier. I told my MIL that my speaker phone was broken but I’d give my daughter the phone, and she yelled, “Oh no, don’t do that. The radiation could be a trigger for cancer.”
Now I’ve heard of some people thinking cell phones cause cancer, but I’ve never heard of someone never wanting someone to use a cell phone because of it, nor have I heard that speaker phone is going to protect the talker.
Answer:
Answer by TotalRecipeHound
Your MIL is overreacting. The cancer concerns are for heavy, long term users, not occasional users. Her concern is that it is believed some diseases only need the right ‘trigger’ mechanism (for instance, Hodgkin’s lymphoma may be environmentally triggered) to occur. She is right on that, but there simply is no evidence that even regular users of cell phones have increased rates of brain cancer, much less rare users such as your 6 year old. Children are developing – but there are so many other risks out there. By the way, the speaker phone doesn’t ‘protect’ the talker, but it does prevent the talker to be in such close proximity of the electronics of the phone.
BTW, with having a cell phone and no landline in your home, have you set up something so that you child knows what to do in an emergency? I know babysitters who refuse to sit for children in homes without landlines, so it is something to consider.
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Question: Difference between an observational study and experiment in this problem?
One study of cell phones and the risk of rain cancer looked at a group of 469 people who have brain cancer. The investigators matched each cancer patient with a person of the same sex, age, and race who did not have brain cancer, then asked about used of cell phones. Result: “our data suggest that use of hand-held cellular telephones is not associated with risk of brain cancer”.
Is this an observational study or an experiment?
It’d be great if you could explain it to me
because it it’s an experiment then something must be manipulated, right?
Thanks
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Answer by Krista Chow
You’re exactly right. This was an observational study. If they took the a group of people who did NOT use cell phones (good luck finding those people), divided them into two groups and then found a way to get one group to begin using cell phones and the other to never begin using cell phones and then compare brain tumor rates a few years later, THAT would be an experiment.